Getting ghosted by your warm leads?

When I used to get ghosted by leads who were this close to closing, I’d spiral.
I’d refresh my DMs endlessly, replay every conversation in my head, and question my worth.

It wasn’t just frustrating, it was soul-draining.
Sound familiar?

Here’s the truth: people sense energy. If you’re clinging too tightly, they feel it.
And when you bring “please pick me” energy into a conversation, they back away.

But here’s what changed everything for me:
I stopped clinging to every lead as if my life depended on it.
My mindset shifted from “Please pick me” to “I’m the prize.”

Guess what happened?
Leads started coming back. Deals closed faster. And I realized it wasn’t just about strategy. It was about my state of being.

What’s a State of Being?

Your state of being is the energy you bring to every interaction.
It’s rooted in how you feel about yourself and your business.

Desperation shouts, “I need you to say yes.”
Confidence whispers, “I’m here if you’re ready, but I’ll thrive either way.”

4 Shifts to Reclaim Your Power

1. Detach from the Outcome.
   Not every lead is meant to convert, and that’s okay.
   The right clients will stay, and the wrong ones will ghost. Both outcomes serve your business in the long run.

2. Reclaim Your Power.
   Stop obsessing over their decision. Instead, focus on what’s in your control:

   • Delivering consistent value.

   • Mastering your craft.

   • Showing up as the expert you are.

     When you trust that abundance exists beyond one deal, everything shifts.

3. Pause, Breathe, Reframe.
   When someone ghosts, resist the urge to follow up with frantic energy.
   Ask yourself:

   • Do I even want this client?

   • Is their silence telling me something?
     Often, their hesitation mirrors what you already know: they’re not the right fit.

4. Stop Over-Giving.
   Throwing in extras to “sweeten the deal” screams insecurity.
   Stick to your boundaries. Your expertise is enough.

Everything changed when I let go of the need to close every lead.

The irony?
The less I cared about closing deals, the more deals I closed.

Because confidence sells, desperation doesn’t.

If You’re Staring at Silence...

Take a step back. Breathe. Reground yourself.

Your business isn’t built on maybes or breadcrumbs.
It’s built on your value, presence, and unapologetic belief in what you bring to the table.

So, stop begging for a seat at someone else’s table. Build your own.

You’ll know you’ve shifted your state of being when ghosted leads stop bothering you. Because the ones who matter? They’ll come back.
And if they don’t? You won’t care.

Keep leading with power, not panic.
Your state of being shapes your success.

Yours Truly,
Pearling ♥️